Starting at a new School
Starting at a new school is a significant transition for children and adolescents. Whether it involves moving suburbs, cities, states or countries, the experience can bring a mix of excitement, uncertainty and worry. New routines, unfamiliar teachers, different expectations and the challenge of making friends can all contribute to heightened stress, particularly in the early weeks.
For some young people, especially adolescents, starting a new school can feel overwhelming. Friendship groups are often already established, and concerns about fitting in, finding their place and managing academic demands can affect confidence and wellbeing. While adjustment takes time, thoughtful preparation and ongoing support can make a meaningful difference.
Starting at a new school may involve challenges such as:
Social adjustment:
Not knowing anyone, forming new friendships and navigating group dynamics or cliques.
Emotional responses:
Feelings of anxiety, fear, sadness or excitement as young people adjust to change.
Academic transition:
Different curricula, teaching styles and expectations that may temporarily affect performance.
Practical challenges:
Learning new routines, finding classrooms, understanding timetables and getting to and from school.
In today’s fast-paced and socially connected world, these challenges can be amplified by comparison, social media and pressure to appear confident or settled before a young person truly feels that way. Recognising that adjustment takes time helps families respond with patience and reassurance.
Here are some strategies that can help support children and young people starting at a new school.
Plan ahead and prepare
Where possible, visit the school in advance. Becoming familiar with the layout, routines and expectations can reduce first-day anxiety. For older students, arranging a peer guide or orientation can help them feel less alone.
Establish routines early
Preparing uniforms, stationery, lunches and timetables ahead of time creates predictability and reduces stress. Consistent routines at home, including regular bedtimes, help young people feel settled and ready to learn.
Know the route to school
Make sure your child understands how to get to and from school, including transport times and pickup points. Where possible, explore walking with a peer or carpool options, and ensure your child knows key contact details in case they need help.
Talk openly and often
Encourage your child to share how they are feeling before and after starting school. Normalise mixed emotions and remind them that uncertainty is a natural part of change.
Encourage connections
Support involvement in extracurricular activities, clubs or sports where friendships can form around shared interests. Play-dates, sleep-overs and shared activities with new friends can also help relationships develop and strengthen over time.
Be patient with progress
Academic performance and confidence may fluctuate during transition. Allow time for adjustment and reassure your child that settling in is a gradual process.
Stay connected with the school
Maintain communication with teachers and staff, especially if concerns arise. Early support can prevent small challenges from becoming ongoing issues.
Connect locally
If you’ve moved during school holidays, consider hosting a small neighbourhood get-together. This gives your child a chance to meet others their age, build familiarity, and helps parents connect and share local insights.
Prepare the night before
Pack a healthy lunch, organise uniforms and school supplies, and review timetables if available. A simple, encouraging note can provide reassurance and help your child start the day feeling supported and prepared.
Allow time to adjust
Settling into a new school takes time. Be patient and reassure your child that feeling unsettled is normal. With time, familiarity and support, confidence and a sense of belonging will grow.