Before I became a mother, I thought my feminism was a battle fought and won. But having three sons has challenged everything. It's always the things you think will be a doddle that end up causing most heartache. When I was asked to write about being a feminist and a mother to three boys, I imagined dashing off something witty, yet touching and wise, and never thought for a moment I'd end up losing my temper (several times) or in tears, or storming away from meals, and feeling like a failure. Did not see that coming. - Bibi van der Zee, The Guardian