‘You never listen to me!’ As a parent or carer, you’ve probably heard your teenager yell something like this during a blow-up – usually just before their bedroom door slams.You might have shouted the same thing back at them when you’ve felt they’d repeatedly ignored your rules or requests. Feeling unheard is a common trigger for conflict with teens. It can leave them feeling misunderstood and you grieving for the close, predictable relationship you had when they were younger. This article aims to give you practical steps to reconnect, rebuild trust and model problem solving after parent–teen fireworks.